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  • If I Didn’t Need Sex, Life Would Be So Much Easier. | Why Does Sex Have So Much Power Over Us? [Chapter 1 of 5]

    If I Didn’t Need Sex, Life Would Be So Much Easier. | Why Does Sex Have So Much Power Over Us? [Chapter 1 of 5]

    WHY DOES SEX HAVE SO MUCH POWER OVER US? / 5 CHAPTERS

    CHAPTER 01 / 05

    If I Didn’t Need Sex,
    Life Would Be So Much Easier.

    We can live without sex. So why do we imagine it, anticipate it, want it—and sometimes let it change how we feel and the choices we make?

    Food is easier to talk about.

    “I feel like sushi tonight.” “I want something sweet.” Nobody is surprised by that.

    But when the thought is “I want to have sex,” something changes. On some nights, the truth may simply be: I want sex.

    01 / WITHOUT DESIRE

    Would life be easier if we simply didn’t need sex?

    Imagine sexual desire could simply be removed. We would never look at someone and feel our bodies drawn to them, hope an evening might lead to sex, or hurt because someone we love no longer desires us.

    We do not need sex to make it through today.
    And yet, there are still nights when we want it.
    Woman at home looking at her phone and imagining sex before anything has happened
    Nothing has happened yet. But the thought that something might happen can already make the night feel different.
    02 / BEFORE IT HAPPENS

    The time we actually spend having sex is surprisingly short.

    Across an entire life, how much time is actually spent having sex? Orgasm itself is smaller still—almost momentary.

    What is strange is that the time spent moving toward that moment can be much longer. Falling for someone, choosing what to wear, waiting for a message, looking forward to seeing them.

    Sex may occupy only a brief part of our lives.
    Thinking about it, anticipating it and remembering it can occupy far more.
    Woman at a café looking at her planner and reflecting on how a brief sexual experience can remain in the mind
    Sex is a moment. Yet in the mind, imagining it, waiting for it and remembering it can last much longer.
    03 / ANTICIPATION

    Even sex that hasn’t happened yet can move us.

    Imagine dinner with someone you are beginning to find interesting. Nothing has happened, and you do not know what will happen later. Yet before leaving home, you already feel a little different.

    The simple possibility that “something might happen tonight” can change the present. In some ways, sex starts influencing us much earlier.

    Woman relaxing at home acknowledging that wanting sex is different from feeling lonely
    It’s not that I’m lonely. Tonight, I want sex. Desire does not always need another name.
    04 / WHAT DO I WANT?

    Do we want sex—or something that exists beyond sex?

    Physical pleasure?
    Orgasm?
    Another person’s skin?
    The feeling of being desired?
    Closeness beyond words?
    A temporary escape from everyday life?

    There is probably no single answer. Even for the same person, it may change from one day to another. Desire is rarely neat enough to fit into one explanation.

    05 / THE TIME BETWEEN

    A brief moment can reach surprisingly far into a life.

    Love, marriage, sexless relationships and affairs cannot be explained by sex alone. Yet sexual desire sometimes slips quietly into all of them.

    Perhaps what gives sex so much power over us is not the minutes in which sex is actually happening.

    Perhaps it is the time spent imagining it, waiting for it, wanting someone, and remembering what happened afterward.

    CHAPTER 02 / 05

    An Orgasm Is Brief. Why Do We Keep Chasing Sex?

    READ CHAPTER 02 →

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