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Women in Their 30s and 40s and the “Thrill of Romance” | What to Consider Before Choosing Adult Services for Women
Menopause. A sexless marriage. Wanting to be seen as a woman. Divorce or heartbreak. Feeling tired of romance itself.
By the time you reach your 30s or 40s, your feelings about relationships with men can become a little more complicated. You may not be able to say with certainty that you want romance. Nor do you necessarily want a new partner.
And yet, you still want time in which you are cherished as a woman. This series explores what lies behind that feeling.
Sexless, but It Doesn’t Mean I Hate My Husband
When you think about a sexless marriage, it can feel as though the relationship itself is deteriorating.
But you do not hate your husband. You do not want a divorce. You have no major complaints about your home life. And yet, somewhere inside, you feel lonely. Sexless marriages can feel this way too.
Breaking a Sexless Marriage Down into Three Parts
Let us consider each part separately.
① There is no sex.
② You still share a life as a married couple.
③ There is no romantic excitement.
These are, in fact, three separate issues. You may eat together, go out on your days off, talk about the future and have a good marriage, yet still find yourself wanting to feel that spark for someone again.
That is because love for your family and romantic attraction to a man are not quite the same thing.
Everyday Life and Romantic Excitement Are Not the Same
Family life comes with roles, responsibilities and commitments. Romantic excitement, on the other hand, has no role to fulfil.
When you fell for someone as a student, you did not wonder, “What is the social significance of this feeling?” You simply wanted to see them and touch them. That was all.
Even as adults, when we begin to seek rational reasons for everything, our hearts do not always behave rationally.
Perhaps What You Want Is Not a New Life, but “A Few Hours”
Even tens of millions cannot make you 20 again. You cannot buy back the time that has passed.
But you can still create moments in the present when your heart races at the thought, “I can see him tonight.” You do not need to replace your life or your husband.
For just a few hours, you can step away from everyday life, talk and laugh with a man, be treated with care, and then return to your own routine. Adult services for women can be used in this way too.
You do not want a new husband or a new life. You simply want to meet the version of yourself who feels that spark again.