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“I’m not sure yet” is also
a perfectly valid preference
You do not need to express your feelings perfectly from the very beginning.
A wonderful experience can start with simply saying, “I’m not sure yet.”
When using women-focused adult services for the first time, some women may not know how to answer straight away when asked, “What would you like me to do?”
The complex feelings in your heart
You may want to talk. To be held. To be treated tenderly. To enjoy intimate time together. To spend time as though you were a couple. But how much do you want each of those things? The truth is, you may not even know yet yourself.
There is nothing unusual about that. After all, we cannot always put our feelings into precise words.
Even at a hospital, it begins with statements such as, “My head hurts” or “My stomach hurts.”
Why does it hurt? What is causing it? Patients cannot necessarily explain everything themselves from the outset. This is even more true of emotions, which cannot be seen.
Women-focused adult services are not like ordering a product that arrives in a box. The time you spend together is the service itself. So it is perfectly fine to begin with something as simple as, “I think I’d like this,” “I’m probably in the mood for that,” or “I’m not very comfortable with this.”
A professional who understands signals beyond words
Words are not the only form of communication. Your expression. The pace of your speech. The pause before you respond. Your reaction when he moves a little closer.
“I’m not sure yet” is a perfectly valid place to begin that day.