What Is “Wife-Only ED”? Why Can He Love His Wife Yet Struggle to Have Sex With Her?
The relationship may not be broken. You still talk and share a life. Yet sex has disappeared. This series looks at what may be happening on the male side without losing sight of the woman’s own feelings and choices.
Love can remain even when sexual response becomes difficult
Wanting to share a life with someone and responding sexually to that person are related, but they are not identical. A stable relationship can coexist with difficulty in sexual situations.
Don’t let “wife-only ED” become the entire explanation
Erectile difficulty can be situational or partner-specific, but there is no single cause. Anxiety, fear of failure, health, medication and relationship factors may all matter.
A cherished partner and sexual stimulation
Security is one of the strengths of a long relationship. Yet security and excitement do not always rise together. Before translating sexual difficulty into “he doesn’t love me,” it helps to separate these dimensions.
Next: when sex becomes predictable
The longer people are together, the more they know each other’s responses and what comes next. That can be trust. It can also make sexual time predictable. What does that do to novelty?
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