The final issue to consider is dissatisfaction and regret.

This is different in nature from physical danger or privacy concerns. However, if you pay a high fee and then feel uncomfortable with the person you were looking forward to meeting, the experience can still represent a significant loss for the woman using the service.

Just because “nothing frightening happened” does not necessarily mean the service was satisfying. Safety in sexual services for women should include not only protection from physical harm, but also avoiding an experience that leaves you with deep emotional regret.

First impressions are a major source of dissatisfaction.

Perhaps the greeting felt unnatural. Something about his cleanliness or grooming seemed off. His appearance differed significantly from the impression given by his photos. He seemed restless or lacking in confidence. The conversation did not flow. He failed to notice the woman’s nervousness. He tried to become physically or emotionally close immediately after meeting. He attempted to proceed without asking what she wanted.

In a service with limited time, the first few minutes can have a significant effect on the entire experience. This is why cast members need strong hospitality skills encompassing their initial greeting, facial expression, tone of voice, posture, cleanliness, grooming and the way they manage personal distance.

※This is not intended as criticism of any particular establishment or cast member. It is a characteristic of services in which two people interact closely within a short period of time.

It is also important for the woman using the service not to ignore her feelings when something seems wrong.

Tell him that you are nervous. Say that you would like to begin with conversation. Ask him not to become too close too quickly. Refuse anything you do not want. If you feel that he is not right for you, do not force yourself to accommodate him.

You do not need to put your own feelings aside because “he came all this way,” “I have already paid” or “I would feel bad saying no.”

Sexual services for women are not places where the purpose is to satisfy the male cast member. The woman using the service is at the centre of that time.