[Five Chapters | Chapter 2] The More Capable a Woman Is, the More She Sees Herself as “Ordinary”

A woman quietly reflecting in a hotel lounge. The contrast with her reflection in the mirror conveys the appeal she does not recognise in herself.

Why Are Career Women More Likely to Feel Lonely? | Five Chapters

CHAPTER 02 / 05

The More Capable a Woman Is, the More She Sees Herself as “Ordinary”

We evaluate ourselves according to the world we live in. The more a woman has already achieved, the more likely she is to see it not as exceptional, but simply as part of everyday life.

If you are surrounded by highly educated, high-earning people, your own accomplishments may not seem exceptional. Your intelligence, career and appearance are simply part of the life you have built through sustained effort.

A woman thinks, “He must know plenty of women like me.” A man thinks, “Someone like her would never be interested in me.”

As a result, she believes she was not chosen, while he believes he could not approach her. Yet neither is rejecting the other.

It is not that you lack appeal. You are simply the only person treating that appeal as something ordinary.

“I’m just ordinary.”
From her perspective, that is genuinely how she sees herself.

You do not have to be strong all the time.
Come to a place where you can explore your feelings with confidence.

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