OPUS

Category: Feelings & Relationships

Articles about romance, loneliness, attraction, the wish to be held, emotional distance, relationships and personal desire. Rather than defining a single right answer, OPUS TOKYO explores these feelings from a woman-centered perspective so adult women can understand their emotions and make choices for themselves.

  • [Chapter 2] It’s Okay to Want to Be Held | Adult Services for Women Aren’t Just About Sex

    [Chapter 2] It’s Okay to Want to Be Held | Adult Services for Women Aren’t Just About Sex

    Adult Services for Women Aren’t Just About Sex | All 5 Chapters

    CHAPTER 02 / 05

    It’s Okay to Want to Be Held

    When we are tired, words are not always what we need. Wanting simply to relax beside someone and feel the warmth of their skin and the comfort of physical closeness is an entirely natural human emotion. It begins with accepting that small desire.

    You want to relax beside someone.
    You want someone to gently hold your hand.
    You want to be embraced without having to explain anything.
    You want to be seen as a woman and treated with care.
    These feelings are completely natural.

    The desire to be held can carry many emotions. You may want to feel safe, to be accepted, to feel protected, or to forget your loneliness. Through another person’s warmth, you may want to reassure yourself that you are here.

    What degree of closeness feels comfortable to you that day?
    That is all that matters.

    And sometimes, that physical closeness may awaken a desire to become even more intimate. That, too, is natural. The mind and body are not completely separate.

    Being looked at tenderly can make you aware of a desire you have kept hidden. Being held can make you want to be desired more intensely. On another day, simply feeling safe in someone’s arms may be enough.

    Neither is more right than the other. You do not need to think of wanting to be held as a childish wish. Wanting to lean on someone does not mean you are not independent. There is no reason why a woman capable of living on her own should not rest against someone’s chest.

    Some days you want to talk; on others, you long for warmth more than words.
    At OPUS, we will never rush you.

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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 02LONELINESS & HESITATIONLoneliness, hesitation and feelings that are hard to say
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  • [Chapter 1] Can I Use the Service Even If I Just Want Someone to Listen? | An Adult Service for Women That’s About More Than Sex

    [Chapter 1] Can I Use the Service Even If I Just Want Someone to Listen? | An Adult Service for Women That’s About More Than Sex

    An Adult Service for Women That’s About More Than Sex | 5 Chapters

    CHAPTER 01 / 05

    Can I Use the Service Even If I Just Want Someone to Listen?

    Many women are interested in adult services for women yet wonder, “Is that really a good enough reason to use one?” Perhaps you are not looking for anything in particular, but simply want to step away from everyday life and spend some quiet time with someone. That feeling alone is reason enough.

    You are not looking for anything in particular.
    You are simply a little tired.
    You want to talk about work.
    There are things about your marriage that you cannot tell anyone.
    You want to step away from everyday life and spend some quiet time with someone.

    Feelings like these are reason enough to use the service.

    OPUS is an adult service for women. That is precisely why your time with us can include physical intimacy if you choose. But using the service does not mean you need to decide anything in advance.

    The reassurance of sharing your true feelings in complete privacy.
    Time reserved entirely for you.

    Some days may be just for talking. Some may be just for sharing a meal. You may simply sit beside someone and spend a peaceful time together. There is no need to feel apologetic about paying for conversation alone. After all, the fee is not based on how many words you speak.

    You can be heard without interruption, without being rushed for an answer, and with someone’s full, thoughtful attention. You also have the freedom to choose whether to go further or not.

    The value lies in the experience as a whole. It is perfectly all right if you do not yet know what you want. Sometimes, talking with someone helps you recognise feelings that were already within you.

    Perhaps you simply wanted to talk. Perhaps you wanted to be treated with care. Perhaps you wanted to reconnect, even briefly, with yourself as a woman. You can discover the answer in your own time.

    You do not need to arrive having decided anything in advance.
    Let’s explore what feels right together, at your pace. At OPUS.

    Discover OPUS
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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 02LONELINESS & HESITATIONLoneliness, hesitation and feelings that are hard to say
    START WITH THE PILLARWhy Does Love Make Us Feel Lonely? | OPUSBACK TO THE EDITORIAL HUBWOMEN'S SEXUALITY | Desire & Intimacy→
  • [5 Chapters | Chapter 5] Being Able to Stand on Your Own Is Not the Same as Wanting to Be Alone

    [5 Chapters | Chapter 5] Being Able to Stand on Your Own Is Not the Same as Wanting to Be Alone

    Why Are Career Women More Likely to Feel Lonely? | 5 Chapters

    CHAPTER 05 / 05

    Being Able to Stand on Your Own Is Not the Same as Wanting to Be Alone

    Independence does not mean needing no one. It means being able to choose whom you need.

    I once met a woman of around thirty who possessed both beauty and intelligence. She said she had a boyfriend, yet she blushed when our hands merely touched.

    Later, when we became deeply intimate, she confided that it had been her first time. She was not a woman no one had chosen.

    Perhaps it was precisely because she seemed capable of living on her own that no one had found it easy to step into her life.

    You have already worked hard enough. It is all right to let your guard down a little when you are with someone.

    Independence does not mean needing no one.
    It means being able to choose whom you need.

    You do not have to be strong all the time.
    Find a place where you can safely explore how you truly feel.

    Discover OPUS
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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 02LONELINESS & HESITATIONLoneliness, hesitation and feelings that are hard to say
    START WITH THE PILLARWhy Does Love Make Us Feel Lonely? | OPUSBACK TO THE EDITORIAL HUBWOMEN'S SEXUALITY | Desire & Intimacy→
  • [5 Chapters | Chapter 3] What Is It About These Women That Men Fear?

    [5 Chapters | Chapter 3] What Is It About These Women That Men Fear?

    Why Are Career Women More Likely to Feel Alone? | 5 Chapters

    CHAPTER 03 / 05

    What Is It About These Women That Men Fear?

    Men, too, find themselves caught between Showa-era values and the realities of the Reiwa era. When they feel unsure around independent women, it does not necessarily mean they dislike their competence.

    Be a man who can support his family and protect a woman. At the same time, treat women as equals, do not try to control them, and put your emotions into words. Men, too, face the conflicting expectations of two different eras.

    A woman who can live independently may be mistaken for a woman who wants to be alone.

    Yet what she may be looking for is not someone to solve her problems, but a space where she can feel safe enough to let her guard down.

    When a man keeps his distance, it does not necessarily mean rejection. Sometimes, because he knows he cannot treat you casually, he simply does not know how to approach you.

    “What could I possibly add
    to this woman’s life?”

    You do not always have to be strong.
    Come to a place where you can safely explore how you truly feel.

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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 04AS A WOMANReturning to yourself as a woman
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  • 【Five Chapters | Chapter 4】Being in the Same Place Doesn’t Mean We’ve Lived the Same Life

    【Five Chapters | Chapter 4】Being in the Same Place Doesn’t Mean We’ve Lived the Same Life

    Why Are Career Women More Likely to Feel Lonely? | Five Chapters

    CHAPTER 04 / 05

    Being in the Same Place Doesn’t Mean We’ve Lived the Same Life

    You know what you had to overcome to get this far. But the path the person before you has taken remains hidden behind who they are today.

    The same university, the same company, a similar income. So you assume that the other person is “someone on your level.”

    Yet he, too, may have lived under pressure to deliver results, hiding his vulnerability and continually proving his worth.

    She thinks, “He probably won’t see me as special,” while he thinks, “She probably doesn’t need someone like me.”

    What lies between them is not a difference in ability. It is the fact that neither can see the journey that brought the other here.

    Though they are so close,
    neither can see the other’s journey.

    You don’t always have to be strong.
    Discover a place where you can explore your feelings with confidence.

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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 04AS A WOMANReturning to yourself as a woman
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  • [Five Chapters | Chapter 2] The More Capable a Woman Is, the More She Sees Herself as “Ordinary”

    [Five Chapters | Chapter 2] The More Capable a Woman Is, the More She Sees Herself as “Ordinary”

    Why Are Career Women More Likely to Feel Lonely? | Five Chapters

    CHAPTER 02 / 05

    The More Capable a Woman Is, the More She Sees Herself as “Ordinary”

    We evaluate ourselves according to the world we live in. The more a woman has already achieved, the more likely she is to see it not as exceptional, but simply as part of everyday life.

    If you are surrounded by highly educated, high-earning people, your own accomplishments may not seem exceptional. Your intelligence, career and appearance are simply part of the life you have built through sustained effort.

    A woman thinks, “He must know plenty of women like me.” A man thinks, “Someone like her would never be interested in me.”

    As a result, she believes she was not chosen, while he believes he could not approach her. Yet neither is rejecting the other.

    It is not that you lack appeal. You are simply the only person treating that appeal as something ordinary.

    “I’m just ordinary.”
    From her perspective, that is genuinely how she sees herself.

    You do not have to be strong all the time.
    Come to a place where you can explore your feelings with confidence.

    Discover OPUS
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  • [5 Chapters | Chapter 1] Raised to Be Supported, She Became an Independent Woman

    [5 Chapters | Chapter 1] Raised to Be Supported, She Became an Independent Woman

    Why Do Career Women Become So Lonely? | 5 Chapters

    CHAPTER 01 / 05

    Raised to Be Supported, She Became an Independent Woman

    At home, you were expected to be a woman who was supported. In society, you were expected to be a woman who could stand without support. You inherited different expectations from two eras and have tried to meet them both.

    Many women raised by parents of the Showa generation will have inherited the belief that a woman should defer to a man and support the household.

    Yet the society in which you have actually lived has expected you to be financially independent, work as an equal alongside men, and make your own choices about your life.

    You have tried to meet both sets of expectations. That is why, even when your work is recognised, part of you may still feel that you are somehow lacking as a woman.

    It is not because you have low self-esteem. It is because you have carried the standards of two different eras at the same time.

    At home, you were expected to be a woman who was supported.
    In society, you were expected to be a woman who could stand without support.

    You do not have to be strong all the time.
    Come to a place where you can safely explore how you truly feel.

    Discover OPUS
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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 04AS A WOMANReturning to yourself as a woman
    START WITH THE PILLARNot a Wife, Mother, or Employee: Do You Have Time to Return to Being “You”? | [Chapter 3] Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Spark of DesireBACK TO THE EDITORIAL HUBWOMEN'S SEXUALITY | Desire & Intimacy→
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