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Category: Women in Their 30s & 40s

Thoughtful articles for women in their 30s and 40s about relationships, sexless partnerships, divorce, heartbreak, attraction, desire, changing life stages and the wish to feel seen as a woman again. OPUS TOKYO approaches these subjects from a woman-centered perspective, helping women recognize what they feel and what they want for themselves.

  • 01 / 08　Not Lonely. But Some Nights, I Want to Be Touched. | Sexual Desire and Loneliness in Women in Their 40s | OPUS

    01 / 08　Not Lonely. But Some Nights, I Want to Be Touched. | Sexual Desire and Loneliness in Women in Their 40s | OPUS

    Enjoying Who I Am, As I Am, Right Now. | All 8 Chapters

    CHAPTER 01 / 08

    Not Lonely. But Some Nights, I Want to Be Touched.

    A woman in her 40s quietly enjoying time to herself in Tokyo at night | Not lonely. But some nights, I want to be touched.

    Having a fulfilling life and physically longing for someone are not necessarily the same thing. Loneliness and sexual desire can each arise quietly from different places.

    I have a career.

    I have a family.

    I have friends.

    And I do not particularly mind spending my days off alone.

    My relationship with my husband or partner also continues peacefully enough in terms of our everyday life together.

    Or perhaps I have been living alone for a long time and have become entirely comfortable with that life.

    Women like this are by no means uncommon in their 30s and 40s.

    We dine alone, shop alone and travel alone.

    We know how to look after our own emotional well-being.

    We do not need someone beside us simply to get through each day.

    Women are often surprisingly good at living independently.

    And yet, from time to time, the body expresses feelings that come from somewhere entirely different.

    I want to be held.

    I want to kiss someone.

    I want to touch a man’s body.

    I want to be touched slowly and tenderly.

    I want to be desired as a woman.

    I want to feel sexually fulfilled.

    Feelings like these.

    They do not necessarily mean that you are “lonely.”

    They can arise even when your life is fulfilling.

    They can arise even when your career is going well.

    They can arise even when you cherish your family.

    They can arise even when you are blessed with good friends.

    Because loneliness and sexual desire do not come from the same place.

    Feeling emotionally fulfilled and physically longing for someone do not always align perfectly.

    Perhaps, as we grow older, we come to experience them more clearly as two separate things.

    “It isn’t that I want a boyfriend.”

    “It isn’t that I am deeply dissatisfied with my life with my husband.”

    “I enjoy my everyday life.”

    And then comes the quiet thought:

    “But every now and then…”

    A small feeling that lingers.

    At OPUS, we believe that whatever lies beyond that “but” is something deeply important.

    Even if you have not decided anything yet.

    Simply tell us what you are feeling right now, exactly as it is.

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    All 8 Chapters

    1. Not Lonely. But Some Nights, I Want to Be Touched.
    2. The Hardest Person to Understand Is Yourself.
    3. Time Moves a Little Differently for Men and Women.
    4. What You Want Is Not Necessarily a Boyfriend.
    5. Sexual Desire Alone Arrives in the Here and Now.
    6. Your Body Has Its Own Season Now.
    7. Every Stage of Life Has Its Own Pleasures.
    8. “This Is What I Want Right Now.”
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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 02LONELINESS & HESITATIONLoneliness, hesitation and feelings that are hard to say
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  • 02 / 08 People find themselves hardest to understand. | Women in Their 40s and the Passage of Time | OPUS

    02 / 08 People find themselves hardest to understand. | Women in Their 40s and the Passage of Time | OPUS

    Enjoying who I am, as I am now. | 8 Chapters

    CHAPTER 02 / 08

    People find themselves hardest to understand.

    A woman in her 40s quietly looking at herself in the mirror | People find themselves hardest to understand

    Even as time passes quietly, the “me” within remains one continuous self.

    It is curious how the changes within ourselves are often the hardest to notice.

    Precisely because we look in the mirror every morning, it can be difficult to see the difference between yesterday and today.

    Age is much the same.

    From our 20s to our 30s.

    From our 30s to our 40s.

    Time passes quietly.

    Yet the “me” within does not suddenly become someone else one morning.

    When you were younger, men asked you out.

    They took you to dinner.

    You fell in love.

    Someone cherished you.

    You were treated as someone a little special.

    There were men who made time in their schedules for you.

    You may have memories like these.

    Just as you once naturally drew attention and were treated as someone a little special, women newly turning 22 are now having their turn.

    Time passes equally for everyone.

    Just as new flowers bloom when spring arrives, a new generation of women comes of age each year.

    And you, too, once had a spring like that.

    Every moment of being loved, laughing and feeling your heart flutter has become part of the woman you are today.

    Perhaps that is precisely why it is so difficult to see ourselves objectively.

    Within us, the person we were in our 20s, our 30s and our 40s continues as one unbroken “me.”

    Age is also the passage of time that gradually changes the scenery of our lives.

    And perhaps the pleasures that suit that scenery also change little by little.

    Time that feels right for who you are now.

    You can take your time and begin by sharing how you feel now.

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    All 8 Chapters

    1. I’m not lonely. But some nights, I want to be touched.
    2. People find themselves hardest to understand.
    3. Time passes a little differently for men and women.
    4. What you want is not necessarily a “boyfriend.”
    5. Desire alone always arrives in the “now.”
    6. The body you have now has its own season.
    7. Every stage of life has its own pleasures.
    8. “This is what I want now.”
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  • I Want Romance, but I’m Tired of Dating Apps | CHAPTER 05: Excitement for Women in Their 30s and 40s

    I Want Romance, but I’m Tired of Dating Apps | CHAPTER 05: Excitement for Women in Their 30s and 40s

    Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Thrill of Excitement | Things to Consider Before Choosing Female-Oriented Adult Services

    Menopause. A sexless relationship. The desire to be seen as a woman. Divorce or heartbreak. Exhaustion with romance itself. We explore what adult women are truly seeking from these moments.

    CHAPTER 05 / 06

    For Women Who Want Romance but Are Tired of Dating Apps

    It is not that you do not want romance. If you met a wonderful man, you would like to see where it might lead.
    But even the thought of opening a dating app feels exhausting. Perhaps you are not tired of romance itself, but of the process of “screening” people before romance can even begin.

    01

    You Are Not Tired of Romance—You Are Tired of Screening

    Reviewing criteria, exchanging messages and assessing one another… Dating was supposed to have become more convenient, yet the process can leave you exhausted before romance even begins. As we grow older, practical concerns and requirements multiply, making it harder to follow our intuition.

    02

    Romance Makes You Think About “What Comes Next”

    Marriage, work, family, money and values. Even when all you want is to enjoy your time together, you can already see the vast reality waiting behind it. Of course that feels exhausting.

    03

    With Female-Oriented Adult Services, There Does Not Have to Be a “Next Step”

    There is no need to assess someone’s long-term potential. You can make the criterion as simple as whether you enjoy being together today.

    Even films have end credits. Something does not become worthless simply because it ends. “I had a wonderful time. I feel ready to do my best again tomorrow.” It is perfectly all right to spend a few hours for that reason alone.

    A moment does not lose its value simply because it did not lead to a future together.

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  • Female-Focused Adult Services in Your 30s and 40s: It’s Okay to Have “Romance Without a Reason” | CHAPTER 6: Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Thrill of Romance

    Female-Focused Adult Services in Your 30s and 40s: It’s Okay to Have “Romance Without a Reason” | CHAPTER 6: Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Thrill of Romance

    Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Thrill of Romance | What to Consider Before Choosing Female-Focused Adult Services

    Menopause. A sexless relationship. The desire to be seen as a woman. Divorce or heartbreak. Exhaustion with romance itself. We explore the true nature of the time that mature women seek.

    CHAPTER 06 / 06

    Female-Focused Adult Services in Your 30s and 40s: It’s Okay to Have “Romance Without a Reason”

    Because you’re going through menopause. Because your relationship has become sexless. Because you got divorced. Because you want to be seen as a woman.
    There can be many different reasons, but perhaps, in the end, it can be much simpler than that.

    01

    You Don’t Need a “Purpose”

    The older we become, the more accustomed we are to asking, “What is this for?” But just as a holiday or a film doesn’t need some grand purpose, surely time that feels like romance can be the same.

    02

    Not Every Romance Has to Lead to a Future

    Is a romance that didn’t end in marriage really a failure? The nervous anticipation of meeting someone and the time you spent laughing together also remain part of your life. If you know the romance is for today only, there is no need to consider income or future prospects.

    03

    You Don’t Need Just One Reason to Use Female-Focused Adult Services

    You may want to be held, to be treated tenderly, or simply feel that you would like to try it once. You are under no obligation to explain your reasons to anyone.
    If it is a romance for today only, there is neither success nor failure.

    If those few hours have a purpose, there is probably only one.
    “I had a wonderful time.” It’s okay to have at least one romance in your life where that alone is enough.

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  • For Women Who Feel “I’m Tired of Romance” After Divorce or Heartbreak | CHAPTER 04: Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Spark of Attraction

    For Women Who Feel “I’m Tired of Romance” After Divorce or Heartbreak | CHAPTER 04: Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Spark of Attraction

    Women in Their 30s and 40s and the “Spark” of Attraction | What to Consider Before Choosing Adult Services for Women

    Menopause. A sexless relationship. The desire to be seen as a woman. Divorce and heartbreak. Feeling tired of romance itself. We explore the true nature of the time that adult women seek.

    CHAPTER 04 / 06

    For Women Who Feel “I’m Tired of Romance” After Divorce or Heartbreak

    “You just need to find someone better next time.”
    You know they are trying to encourage you. But ending a relationship as an adult is not simple. Sometimes you do not want to move on. You are tired of romance itself, yet that does not mean you have come to dislike men.

    01

    It Is a Little Different from Heartbreak When You Were Younger

    A breakup in your 30s or 40s carries the weight of all the time you shared. You are not only losing one person; the everyday life you had together changes as well. So it is entirely natural that you cannot simply switch off your feelings and move on.

    02

    But That Does Not Mean You Have Come to Dislike Men

    You want to be treated gently and thoughtfully. You want to be held. But starting a relationship from the beginning feels exhausting. These two feelings are not contradictory.
    You may not want a boyfriend, but that does not mean you no longer want to feel a spark. It is perfectly acceptable to occupy that space in between.

    03

    You Do Not Have to Begin Another Serious Relationship

    A new relationship demands an enormous amount of energy. With adult services for women, there is no need to make promises about the future from the outset.

    Enjoy a conversation, laugh, feel a little romance, and then go home. Before looking for your next relationship, simply being able to think, “Spending time with a man can be quite nice,” is enough.

    Romance can also be enjoyed without staking your life on it.

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  • Sexless, but It Doesn’t Mean I Hate My Husband | [Chapter 2] Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Thrill of Romance

    Sexless, but It Doesn’t Mean I Hate My Husband | [Chapter 2] Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Thrill of Romance

    Women in Their 30s and 40s and the “Thrill of Romance” | What to Consider Before Choosing Adult Services for Women

    Menopause. A sexless marriage. Wanting to be seen as a woman. Divorce or heartbreak. Feeling tired of romance itself.
    By the time you reach your 30s or 40s, your feelings about relationships with men can become a little more complicated. You may not be able to say with certainty that you want romance. Nor do you necessarily want a new partner.
    And yet, you still want time in which you are cherished as a woman. This series explores what lies behind that feeling.

    CHAPTER 02 / 06

    Sexless, but It Doesn’t Mean I Hate My Husband

    When you think about a sexless marriage, it can feel as though the relationship itself is deteriorating.

    But you do not hate your husband. You do not want a divorce. You have no major complaints about your home life. And yet, somewhere inside, you feel lonely. Sexless marriages can feel this way too.

    01

    Breaking a Sexless Marriage Down into Three Parts

    Let us consider each part separately.
    ① There is no sex.
    ② You still share a life as a married couple.
    ③ There is no romantic excitement.

    These are, in fact, three separate issues. You may eat together, go out on your days off, talk about the future and have a good marriage, yet still find yourself wanting to feel that spark for someone again.

    That is because love for your family and romantic attraction to a man are not quite the same thing.

    02

    Everyday Life and Romantic Excitement Are Not the Same

    Family life comes with roles, responsibilities and commitments. Romantic excitement, on the other hand, has no role to fulfil.

    When you fell for someone as a student, you did not wonder, “What is the social significance of this feeling?” You simply wanted to see them and touch them. That was all.

    Even as adults, when we begin to seek rational reasons for everything, our hearts do not always behave rationally.

    03

    Perhaps What You Want Is Not a New Life, but “A Few Hours”

    Even tens of millions cannot make you 20 again. You cannot buy back the time that has passed.

    But you can still create moments in the present when your heart races at the thought, “I can see him tonight.” You do not need to replace your life or your husband.

    For just a few hours, you can step away from everyday life, talk and laugh with a man, be treated with care, and then return to your own routine. Adult services for women can be used in this way too.

    You do not want a new husband or a new life. You simply want to meet the version of yourself who feels that spark again.

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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 03INTIMACY & RELATIONSHIPSIntimacy, relationships and distance
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  • Not a Wife, Mother, or Employee: Do You Have Time to Return to Being “You”? | [Chapter 3] Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Spark of Desire

    Not a Wife, Mother, or Employee: Do You Have Time to Return to Being “You”? | [Chapter 3] Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Spark of Desire

    Women in Their 30s and 40s and the “Spark of Desire” | What to Consider Before Choosing Female-Oriented Adult Services

    Menopause. A sexless relationship. The desire to be seen as a woman. Divorce or heartbreak. Weariness with romance itself. We explore the true nature of the time that adult women seek.

    CHAPTER 03 / 06

    Not a Wife, Mother, or Employee: Do You Have Time to Return to Being “You”?

    As we grow older, we are increasingly addressed by our “roles” before our names.
    At work, we are employees. At home, wives. If we have children, mothers. Each role matters, but when they fill every day, we may find ourselves wondering, “Where am I in all of this?”

    01

    The Older We Become, the More “Roles” We Take On

    You have met society’s expectations one by one. And yet, one day, you realise something.
    Although you spend so much time doing things for others, there is surprisingly little time when you can simply be yourself.

    02

    A Life Spent Being Evaluated by Others

    At work, results are expected of us; at home, we are expected to fulfil our roles. But everyone deserves time when nothing is expected of them.
    You do not have to achieve anything. It is enough to spend a few pleasant hours that ask nothing more of you.

    03

    You Do Not Have to Try So Hard Here

    Here, no one will judge how well you do your job. You do not need to be a good wife, a good mother, or an endlessly thoughtful woman.
    Wanting to be pampered or to be thought beautiful is enough.

    The desire to be desired.
    You do not have to work at suppressing even the desire to be wanted.

    For a few hours, it is all right to return to being simply “you,” with no role to play.

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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 04AS A WOMANReturning to yourself as a woman
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  • In Your 40s and Menopause: What Does It Really Mean to Feel Like Your Libido Has Increased? | CHAPTER 01: Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Thrill of Attraction

    In Your 40s and Menopause: What Does It Really Mean to Feel Like Your Libido Has Increased? | CHAPTER 01: Women in Their 30s and 40s and the Thrill of Attraction

    Women in Their 30s and 40s and the “Thrill of Attraction” | What to Consider Before Choosing a Male Escort Service for Women

    Menopause. A sexless relationship. Wanting to be seen as a woman. Divorce or heartbreak. Weariness with romance itself.
    In your 30s and 40s, your feelings about relationships with men can become a little more complicated. You may not be able to say with certainty that you want romance. Nor do you necessarily want a new partner.
    And yet, you may still long for time in which you are cherished as a woman. This series explores what lies behind those feelings.

    CHAPTER 01 / 06

    In Your 40s and Menopause: What Does It Really Mean to Feel Like Your Libido Has Increased?

    “Menopause increases your libido.”
    Some women may feel a little unsettled when they come across a statement like this and recognise something of themselves in it.

    Since entering your 40s, you may find yourself more aware of men than before. Sometimes you want to be touched. You may even surprise yourself with how much you long for that feeling of excitement.
    But I do not think all of this needs to be explained by the single word “libido.”

    01

    Why Do Feelings of Wanting a Man Become More Noticeable in Your 40s?

    Of course, it is meaningful to consider physical changes from a medical perspective. But hormones alone may not explain everything happening within your heart.

    Perhaps what you want is not simply to do something sexual with just anyone, but to be desired by a man. To be touched. To be seen as a woman.

    There are things you may once have received without giving them much thought. A man’s gaze. Being asked out. Talking at a distance close enough to feel a little nervous.
    Feeling your own femininity through another person’s response. Only when these experiences become less frequent might you realise how unexpectedly important they were to you.

    02

    What Has Changed Since Your 20s Is Not Just You, but the World Around You

    From your 30s into your 40s, time moves in only one direction. Your energy and appearance gradually change, as do your circumstances. And you are not the only one changing.

    More people are married. Some take on greater responsibility at work. Others are busy raising children. Opportunities to meet men naturally and be approached, as you once might have been, become less frequent.

    Yet your longing for the opposite sex does not necessarily fade at the same pace.This creates a curious gap in timing.

    03

    You Do Not Have to Give Up Enjoyment Because You Are “This Age”

    Because you are in your 40s. Because you are no longer young. Because it is too late for romance. Sometimes you impose an age limit on your own feelings in this way.

    But a male escort service for women is not a place to look for a marriage partner. It is rather like visiting a theme park or going on holiday: you would not tell yourself that you are now too old to dream.

    Enjoying that time and your age are separate matters. Do you feel like enjoying yourself that day? Perhaps that alone is enough of a standard.

    Perhaps what you want is not a man himself, but the sense of yourself as a woman that you experience when you are with one.

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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 01BODY & DESIREBody, desire and change
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  • [CHAPTER 2] Is It Unusual to Use Adult Services for Women in Your 40s? | What Kind of Women Use Adult Services for Women? (5 Chapters)

    [CHAPTER 2] Is It Unusual to Use Adult Services for Women in Your 40s? | What Kind of Women Use Adult Services for Women? (5 Chapters)

    What Kind of Women Use Adult Services for Women? | 5 Chapters

    CHAPTER 02 / 05

    Is It Unusual to Use Adult Services for Women in Your 40s?

    Is it unusual to become interested in adult services for women in your 40s? At OPUS, we primarily serve princesses in their 30s and 40s. What differs from our younger years may not be desire itself, but the “constraints” involved in fulfilling it.

    In our teens and 20s, school, university, the workplace and friends of friends naturally provide opportunities to meet men through our social circles.
    Men and women go for a drive together. They go camping. Snowboarding. To a hot spring.
    Some may remember a time when simply saying, “Let’s all get together next week,” was enough to bring everyone together.

    Yet in our 30s and 40s, our lives begin to branch in different directions.
    Work. Marriage. Raising children. Independence. A career change. Caring for family members. Each person becomes deeply immersed in her own life. Getting together is no longer as easy as it once was.

    I once came across an event called a “30th-Year Ceremony,” where people reunite ten years after their coming-of-age ceremony. It is an interesting idea, but bringing people together is not as easy as it was when they were 20. By the age of 30, perhaps everyone’s life has simply taken a very different path.

    But a change in circumstances does not make the capacity to fall for someone disappear.

    We still find a beautiful man attractive. We still feel happy when a kind man cherishes us. There are days when we want to be held. Days when we want to be seen as a woman.

    What changes is not desire, but the circumstances surrounding it.
    There is no time. There is work. There is family. There are things we want to protect.

    Perhaps our 30s and 40s are not decades in which desire disappears, but decades in which the constraints on fulfilling it freely increase.

    That is why OPUS does not look only at the sexual desire you feel that day.

    Lately, no one has seen you as a woman.
    You have not spent time solely for yourself.
    You have forgotten how to let yourself depend on someone.

    Half of it may be sexual desire. But the other half is the princess’s own story—the path that brought her here. At OPUS, we want to embrace both.

    Amid the constraints that come with adulthood, reclaim a story that belongs to you alone.
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    WOMEN’S SEXUALITY / 01BODY & DESIREBody, desire and change
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