This is the general editorial extract of the Japanese article. Section 07, service-promotion sections and booking links are not included.
Your body seems satisfied, yet a little space remains in your heart. Perhaps that is because pleasure was not the only thing you wanted.
You masturbate, and it feels genuinely good.
The heat in your body subsides, and your breathing settles. Yet somehow, something still feels a little missing.
"Perhaps feeling good was not the only thing I wanted."
Have you ever found yourself thinking that in the quiet room afterward?
Physical satisfaction and a lingering emotional space are not contradictory. What women want cannot always be explained by the single word "pleasure."
01 / There is nothing unusual about women masturbating
When you have more opportunities to hear women speak openly about sexuality, one ordinary truth becomes clear.
It is not at all unusual for women to masturbate.
Some do it occasionally; for others, it is part of everyday life. Some go through periods of wanting to almost every day, while others rarely feel the need.
For some, their fingers are enough. Others choose what suits them, such as a vibrator or an electric massager. It is entirely natural for frequency and preferences to differ from person to person.
Even so, old assumptions persist: that women do not have much sexual desire, or that they rarely masturbate.
But women have sexual desires too. There are days when they want to feel pleasure, nights when they want to be touched, and moments when they want sex.
Sex is not a reward reserved for men.
This is where things become a little more complicated. If you know better than anyone how to give yourself pleasure, why are there still nights when you long for another person's body?
02 / The feeling of being with someone cannot be created entirely alone
There is a straightforward sense of reassurance in being on your own.
You can satisfy yourself in your own way, whenever you like, without having to consider anyone else. You do not have to worry about another person's reactions or meet their expectations.
That ought to be enough. Yet sometimes you suddenly feel, "Tonight, I would rather not be alone."
Perhaps what you want is another person's warmth: hands different from your own, breathing close to your ear, the weight of an embrace. The quiet anticipation of not knowing how you will be touched next.
And above all,
the feeling that someone other than yourself is looking at you.
You can experience physical pleasure alone. But you cannot fully create the feeling of being with another person all by yourself.
If your body was satisfied but a space remained in your heart, perhaps what you wanted was not only pleasure, but intimate time shared with someone else.
03 / Wanting to be held is not the same as wanting a romantic relationship
When you wish someone would touch you, the next question is, "But who?"
When you were younger, you may have attached considerable meaning to each sexual encounter: someone you loved, someone you were dating, someone who cared for you. There may have been a time when physical intimacy and romance were closely connected.
But as you gain experience, you begin to understand that romance and sexual desire do not always occupy the same place in your life.
When a relationship begins, so do the messages, the coordination of schedules, the consideration of another person's feelings, and the time spent communicating your own. There may also be jealousy, arguments, and effort involved in maintaining the relationship.
Sometimes you want all of that. On other nights, you simply want a little touch, to be seen as a woman, or to step away from daily life beside a warm body.
Wanting to be held does not necessarily mean wanting a partner.
You do not have to force every one of those feelings into the category of romance.
04 / No one talking about it does not mean no one feels it
When a woman talks about sexual desire, others sometimes presume to explain it for her: "Are you sexually frustrated?" "Why don't you find a boyfriend?" "Do you really want it that much?"
So many women stop saying anything.
And when nobody speaks about it, they begin to wonder, "Am I the only person who thinks about this?"
But no one talking about something is not the same as no one feeling it.
There is nothing unusual about a woman lying in bed on a quiet night, looking at the light of her phone and wishing someone would hold her.
05 / I want sex. But not with just anyone.
Perhaps this is part of what makes women's desires difficult to satisfy.
I want sex. But that does not mean any unfamiliar man will do.
There are men on dating apps, and you may meet someone when you go out for a drink. If you begin a romantic relationship, physical intimacy may follow.
But wanting sex is not the same as wanting romance.
You want someone you can feel at ease with. Someone clean and well-groomed, who takes your feelings seriously, and with whom you can say "no" to anything you do not want. You do not want to be rushed or take unnecessary risks. Nor do you want someone intruding further into your life than you wish after the night is over.
The more carefully you consider those conditions, the more you may realize how surprisingly difficult it is to safely meet the simple wish to be touched by someone.
06 / Nights of searching, closing the page, and searching again
One night, almost without thinking, you pick up your phone and search for "sexual services for women," or the Japanese term "jofu."
You read a few results and close the page. But you are still curious, so you open it again. You clear your history, tell nobody, and wonder, "Is it strange that I am looking this up?"
Yet searching for it has not made you a different person from the woman you were yesterday.
You were curious. You wanted to know what it was like and whether it might suit you. That is all.
Perhaps you have simply begun asking yourself, "What is it that I really want?"
Section 07 is not included in this editorial extract.
08 / You do not have to pretend your desires do not exist
The point is not to suggest that you should use sexual services for women.
You can search and then close the page. If masturbation is enough for you that night, that is fine. If you want romance, you can pursue it. On a night when you want to sleep peacefully alone, you can do that too.
When you find yourself wanting another person's warmth, you can choose your own way of responding to that feeling.
What matters is not only what you choose, but allowing yourself to acknowledge the feeling that comes before the choice: "This is what I want."
Masturbating. Having sexual desires. Wanting to be touched or held, or wanting sex. Looking up sexual services for women.
None of those things changes your worth as a woman.
You do not have to tell anyone. You do not have to explain. You do not need someone else to understand.
But you do not have to lie to yourself by pretending that you never feel that way.
If you miss another person's warmth, or sometimes want to be treated as a woman, you can begin simply by acknowledging those feelings privately.
